LLMs are not the tool for a recommender job

What’s your use case justifying the pain and suffering of self-hosting Matrix?

JFYI - after many years of trusting Borg with my backups, I found Kopia to be MUCH faster, in both snapshots creation time and browsing/diffing. I backup my whole home every 6 hours, so going from ~20min down to ~3min is an appreciable win. There’s also a web endpoint to Kopia that may make backing up on the go easier when you can’t trust your tunnel to home.

Nextcloud is way too bloated

It really isn’t, though? What if you deploy it from source with just the modules you need and a tuned config for PHP/postgres?

Seems to me that those are generally enabled by bots and scripting, and I don’t think it’s any harder to do that stuff in XMPP than it is in discord?

That there’s no shortage of wheels being reinvented, and that it takes insights developed over decades to be relevant in this field. To avoid.

My parents in their 70’s are alright daily driving gajim there

Or, you know, just use key auth only and fail2ban. Putting sshd behind another port only buys you a little time.