At least 23 years have passed… was not meant to be read as a birthday post…

Just roll a dice for January 1 to December 31 of 2002, you have a 1/365 chance of guessing right! (but I wont confirm or deny it lol)

Bruh I’m not revealing my birthday… xD

4 AM in 美国费城 Philadelphia, USA

(Yes I know I’m supposed to be sleeping xD, but cant sleep

and also if I wanna talk to mom, who’s visiting China right now, my night time is their day time so… yeah… kinda wanna be awake at night so I can stay in contact)

So are you abroad or in China? Kinda confused, your comments are kinda inconsistent…

Oh fuck, I still have no idea…

Hopefully I’ll have a plan for this digital era stuff when i become a parant

My parents limited me to like 30min to 1 hour of computer usage when I was like 8 and first had internet access

Then I remember from 12 and onwards, I basically had no restrictions… parent experienced the internet the same time as we did, tech illiterate, so they didn’t know anything about how do parental control stuff…

But even after 12, mom did wanna turn off the wifi at night, especially before I started highschool, but sometimes I wanna stay up and I just sneak downstairs and turn it back on lol

Anyways… probably something like:

ban social media till at least 16, and for Youtube restrict to only a select few educational channels, maybe allow direct messaging with classmates, but I think all messages should get logged and sent to me at least till like 12 (am I too authoritarian?). Game time is limited to 30 minutes max; 1 hour on non-school days, at least till like age 10… then maybe be lenient if thing go well…

Politically extremist sites like 4chan would be part of the blocklist… aint no way I’d let that shit ruin my children.

About the porn stuff… oh yea I heard about it in 5th grade and honestly that was probably wayyy to early for me… it was kinda… shocking…

I’d silently add blocklist for porn until like at least… idk 15 or 16… (is this reasonable? or am I just helicoptering?)… actually idk if I even wanna drop the blocklist till like 18…

Like I’m not gonna get mad if they managed to get access to it anyways… it just feels kinda weird from a parent’s perspective to know your kids have access to those things that young… know what I mean?

Okay idk I feel like I’m gonna end up even more helicopter-y than my parents…

Idk its just… if hypothetically I have childen, I’d really wanna protect them (or at least try to), and then end up overprotective…

@hegar@fedia.io @hengji@lemmy.world

Hope y’all don’t mind me joining in the conversation lol 😅

I was born in 广州 (Parents from 台山), family emigrated when I was around 8.

I kinda wonder what Guangzhou is like nowadays… my mom and older brother is going there visiting right now and I didn’t feel like going cuz of depression and that felt too stressful, and also I wasn’t sure how the firewall thing would work… I’m kinda addicted to stuff like Youtube…

I don’t even have much memories anymore… I wonder if there’s any remnants my “footsteps” in my old apartment.

I remember a memory of having 小笼包 but don’t remember much, but I recently had some in the US tho…

I’ve been to Hong Kong like once when I was so young, barely even old enough remember it.

FYI: Roaming on a foreign carrier completely bypass firewall as far as I know…

Mom is visiting China right now and she told me she can visit Youtube on her phone data, but not from my Aunt’s wifi.

Its $50 USD for a 30-day pass with merely 15GB of data on T-Mobile (slowed to like 256kb unlimited afterwards)… feels kinda expensive… but she mostly just want the unlimited phone calls feature tbh

Basically if you manage to get a sim (or eSim, but that requires importing a phone since phones sold in China do not have eSim capability) from outside China with an active plan, you’re good to go.

FYI: Anti-AI people are a very small minority of the world.

When more “normies” join in, you’ll see a natural shift into being more “pro AI”

Anecdote: A fucking therapist told me to “just use AI to help you write a resume”… 🧐 (don’t remember how I even got to the topic of resumes)

Yeah… turns out not a good fit, for other reasons… (constantly just be like “go outside” and making me feel so unconfortable and I kinda had an existential crisis on whether or not I belonged in this country)

Did you know about:

The Top 10 Legendary Animals of China:

1. Grass Mud Horse （草泥马）

😉

/jk

Oh…

Germophobia…

🫠

But the more “weird” thing would be:

I use biometrics on phone so the password wont get revealed in public, but I always make sure to disable biometrics before I sleep (or if I would get separated from my phone for any reason, like taking an exam for something, or going through security screening)… sometimes even reboot it if I don’t have any apps that I need to stay opened in the background and don’t mind the inconvienience…

And if somehow the biometrics don’t work, and I have to enter it in public, I make sure to look around for any cameras pointed at me, and try to cover the screen so no cameras can capture the password…

(Do people who use biometrics disable it before sleep, or is that just a “me” thing?)

Also every time I enter a lockscreen password on a phone, I make sure to wipe off the screen and any potential residual fingerprints.

For computers, I just run my fingers through the entire keyboard after entering the password so theres equal amounts of residual fingerprints over the entire keyboard

This is so you can’t try to use some fingerprinting shenanigans to find what keys I pressed and basically recontruct my password…

(I probably look very paranoid lol)

i talk while watching movies

You don’t do it at the theater, right?

You can’t turn off updates in Motorola Phones… like… it just auto downloads…

Does not feel so good when you know the restrictions on “sideloading” is coming soon… 👀

ATTENTION COMRADE!!!

同志请注意！！！

❗❗❗

你现在正在“翻墙”。

如此行为违反了中华人民共和国国家安全法！

请立刻终止你的网络！

你这家伙马上来公安局来一趟！

你这孩子怎么这么调皮啊？上外国网站？想造反啊？

（开玩笑的，不要怕 😆）

Officially, no. I only have Depression and Anxiety.

我是美籍华人，欢迎到 Fediverse 。。。

我想问个问题，你怎么找到这个地方啊？👀 翻墙来的吗？

Anyways, this is kinda a weird community to post an introduction, ngl. 😆

YOU ARE BUGS

Me:

1. Open Maps
2. Stare at it
3. Mentally think to my self this is my life now (say, I’m waiting at an appointment for something)
4. Press home buttom
5. Open App list
6. Scroll up and down
7. To back to home page
8. STARE at it, pretending I’m busy doing something
9. Oh shit maybe I should actually do something
10. Realize I actually haven’t taken the time to download anything beforehand
11. Downloads Lichess
12. Actually I wanna just browse wikipedia
13. Find an article for what stuff I have on my mind
14. STARE at it, pretending I’m reading an ebook
15. Actually I can’t focus, home screen again
16. Opens the notes app
17. • blank note
18. Hmm okay lets write a poem… how am I feeling right now…
19. Writes 1-2 line…
20. Fuck I can’t think of anything else… my head hurts…
21. Press homescreen
22. Stare at it for 10 seconds
23. Turn it off
24. Spin the phone around like a fidget spinner
25. Bored af

Pro Tip: Take long bathroom breaks at work and spend the time reading labor laws.

Hopefully when they start complaining about your bathroom breaks, you’ve already understood most of the labor laws to file a lawsuit against your shitty employer.

I have no idea what you mean. AFAIK China does not have healthcare for all, or free healthcare. But apart from that IDK how healthcare actually works in China.

Common rhetoric I get told in the Fediverse… I mean if you look in World News comms, you’ll see those…

Which just confuses the fuck out of me since its a contradiction to my parents first-hand accounts (and also some of what gets told by my aunts (and other relatives/people in my parent’s social circle in China))

“America” isn’t the only country with these issues

My family emigrated from China… its about the same on the other side of the ocean… (honestly don’t know what the “free healthcare in China” stuff came from… certaintly didn’t apply to my family from Taishan with Taishan Hukou)

They’re so used to this lol, they think this is just normal

Also: Young people are expected to fund their parents retirement… its a crime to just abandon your elderly parents who cannot afford their living (unless you have proof of abuse)

Great Firewall of Europe