To me having the bar be some outside goal seems so strange? So if a person is disabled and can’t “earn a living” or have the ability to navigate “the things needed for day to day life” whatever that means since it’s different for everyone, remains a child? To me this is a very dangerous way of defining adulthood and anyone denied the opportunity to earn money/gain skills is subjugated to being a child? Historically speaking this would make nearly all women children until the 1970s. Adulthood is a mindset

What about all the adults without jobs or parents whose labor primarily stays in the home? I think a stay at home parent with no income is still an adult.

I think it’s when you decide it, plenty of children walking around in grown bodies paying bills but also letting the whims of the world carry them with their current never taking a stand and steering their own lives. To be an adult is both a choice to be free from undue influence but also to be fully responsible for your own actions.

It think it’s important to plant this seed early, I would always joke about how the dogs are here “for a good time not for a long time” when my kids were growing up, it also encouraged them to live in the moment with our pets. Speak openly about the dog aging like you might to an adult peer, that way your child learns these scary thoughts are safe to have and you share them too so they can come to you for comfort. Obviously this is age appropriate advice little kids don’t need that last part.

I’d need more context to give you a real answer but personally:

Do it like any “we need to talk” adult talks, keep it simple explain what happened, give age appropriate details, and tell them it’s ok to cry/be mad/be sad for a long time, etc. encourage them to express their feelings in that moment and then in recovery share with them when something reminded you of the pet or things related to the pet, it seems counter intuitive but they are having these same thoughts and feelings and by saying them out loud you’re saying it’s ok to feel this and we can grieve together.

Hope this helps

Butter chicken is pretty! At least from my local favorite place it is, we don’t have that weird neon red stuff the UK (and other places?) has

Yeah I didn’t discover Indian food until my 30s and I think a lot of curries are actually beautiful?? Like a deep mustard yellow with melty red or orange flecks and tiny colorful spots all suspended in sauce? It’s like liquid art. Sure not all curries are beautiful but I think most look appetizing at the very least

The day I have to give some billionaire creep my biometrics to go to a show is the same day I decide I’m never going to a show again

Do all the robots that can clearly do janitorial work not worry you?

Just act like you already knew that then impress someone else with it later so you 1) don’t give the person who told you any validation and 2) get that validation for yourself from someone else

Can confirm, married to one and it’s 100% the right column with out exception for decades on end

The bees at my house are WAY fatter than this and yes I constantly fat shame them

This and the shoebill stork are the only 2 birds that freak me out super bad (and basically all owls)

I had to teach myself to say lol all the time via text and it absolutely helps with tone, so does using emoji which was something else I had to force myself to do. I seem less mature I guess but I don’t come off as a blunt asshole anymore and my conversations go a lot smoother

I cry probably daily on average if we count all types of crying. I’ve sobbed a handful of times in my life. I cry hard a few times a year. I mostly cry because I’m inspired by something like the Artemis II mission had me crying either because of the spirit of space travel or being touched by how much I love all 4 of the beautiful people on it. I cry when I’m happy.

You’re both right these things BOTH suck. We need to live in a world where we have enough disposable income to treat the occasional medical emergency or ongoing supportive care of our pets, like arthritis meds or special diets so they don’t just have to die and it would be nice too if vet care was significantly more affordable.

Mostly stuff about me I know I’ve told them. If you ask me a question I know I’ve given you the information for before I’m having a bad time. To me it’s about how much attention is this person actually paying to our conversations or are they just phoning it in.

You sound a lot like me friend

Neil Smokin DeGrasse Tyson forgetting what he’s already posted lol

I may be a bear…