People just adding others in pseudo-friendships, friendships that don’t really mean anything and people treating others like they’re a service or speed-dial or so. I am part of the last generation of people it feels like, where, you befriended someone with intent to build a bond with them and that bond is built upon year after year. You gain memories, then when the old memories are old, you make new ones.

I’ve noticed an alarming amount of people who’ll just add you because they only see you as someone to lean on. Not because the relationship is meaningful, but someone who is just there ‘when in need’ as they go off not doing anything for large portions of time. This creates an artificial, shallow and hollow experience where a lot of time, you will feel like you’re the one upholding the friendship.

And that only isn’t normal to me, but simply unacceptable. Then you’ve got people who can’t even go a day without communication so now they call it ‘ghosting’ which is another overly spammed word that has lost meaning. I’m low maintenance, who can go periods of time without talking but at the same time, I do also want things to be meaningful. Doesn’t have to be constant, just something within the year.

And I’ve had people in my life who simply cannot do that. I’ve had people who still consider friends after not talking for years and years. What do you mean you’re okay with that? That’s lost time! I don’t enjoy having to spend however long playing catch up.

  • MissGoldenSocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    My answer again, Fast Fashion and putting a lot of money into completely useless (plastic, mass produced) junk. General unconscious consumerism.

    Similar question was asked pretty recently.

    Reposting my earlier comment because lazy and don’t wanna rewrite:

    Fast fashion.

    Unconscious consumption in general. People are pouring crazy amounts of money into plastic garbage, “collectibles”, general useless and unnecessary junk, lifestyle products etc. Then they defend it with a flippant “lol intrusive thoughts won UwU”. I wouldn’t even mind so much if it wasn’t too often the case that these same people also complain about environmental issues and capitalism.

    “but but i’m a magpie, I’m a loot goblin” is just normalizing the behavior, trying to make it cute. It’s not. You’re very directly contributing to the increasing waste problem in the world and giving money to megacorps (think plastic production in particular). If you absolutely must do this, find products made of natural materials, produced by real people. Yes, it’ll cost more. Yes, that’s the real price of your obsession.